The Free Birth of James Marco
1/26/15 10lbs, 22.75in
This birth story actually begins before conception. After getting pregnant on 4 different kinds of hormonal birth control and using two Mirenas (one of which punctured my uterine wall) I prayerfully decided I needed to handle things more naturally. So I did. I dove deep into studying Natural Family Planning and The Billings Method. I successfully avoided pregnancy for 16 months, when we attempted to use a condom when we knew I was ovulating in January 2014. Well, we got pregnant and miscarried at 13 weeks. Believe it or not I had no idea you could get pregnant again so quickly, and surprise, 2 weeks later I was pregnant again.
I have long since had a passion for childbirth, pregnancy, and motherhood. I have had natural vaginal births minus my first (who I was very uneducated with). I was very unhappy with all of my hospital births for many reasons. Our last baby was born without a doctor in the room in a hospital because I hadn’t progressed fast enough for them so they had sent the oncall home. This was the last straw for me and I decided if I ever had another baby it would be at home. My dream was shattered when I found out it was going to be around $3000 for a home birth midwife. If you know me, you know that when I want to do something, I do it. So we hit the books and we studied every possible worst case scenario imaginable in preparation for our free birth. I kept up ‘prenatal’ care throughout my pregnancy with an OB and ended with a CNM.
Prodromal labor began in the first week of December, 2014. I became extremely ill right before Christmas and spent 2 weeks ill and contracting day and night. Around New Year’s, I was in what seemed like labor for 3 days. It was horrible mentally and emotionally. Day and night never ceasing contractions continued through January. My ‘due date’ came and went. I cried a lot. I was exhausted from it all. But I knew baby would come. When he was ready, he would come. I had several friends whose words truly got me through that extremely difficult time. I believed postioning was a factor, as ultra sound showed and it could physically be confirmed that he was in a transverse lie, so I did many different exercises from Spinning Babies to get him to turn and to be in a more favorable position.
My mom flew to visit for 10 days. Originally we thought it would be a newborn and mom visit, but baby had not yet arrived. She flew in on Thursday.
Sunday morning at 41+3, I was in bed nursing my toddler when I heard a pop. I felt a trickling. I was confused. So I stood up and then there was a huge whoosh! Gushing. There was an obscene amount of vernix in my fluid, I was immediately excited. This was at 7am. I called my husband who was working and told my mom. She was awesome and cooked breakfast for the kids and took care of everyone while I labored through the day. I felt great. I called my friend (who is also a doula) and told her to wait to come over for a while. I spent an hour in the kids bath tub, but I knew that wasnt where I was going to birth. My mom thought for sure baby would be here around noon or 1. Noon and 1 came and went. Labor was progressing but slowly. Evening came, and I wanted Chinese. So my husband bought takeout. I was starving, and ate two entire meals (yikes). My mom kept asking me if I wanted to be eating so much and I disregarded her caution. The kids went to bed at 7:30. Labor continued and was getting more intense. I walked, squatted, and did several different Spinning Babies exercises. Around 8:30 I started laboring in my stall shower in my bedroom. I laid in my bed trying to get some rest around 9:30. Transition began around 10. This is where I began to curse all of the Chinese food. Massive diarrhea 😦 and I could not sit on a toilet so I stood in the shower in full transition for over 2hrs…pooing…in the shower…like a boss. My husband was scared because I had the shower so hot and my body was extremely red from it all. I got out of the shower and told him to get our deep massager and push it into my back hard. Then I needed to get back into the shower. Minutes went by while atanding in the shower and I started thinking I’m tired I can’t do this. Oh crap I need to crap again and then he was crowning. My husband said to me, baby that’s the baby not poo. I was shocked I tried to look but couldn’t see. And with less than a contraction and FER, he was out in 1 push, straight into his father’s hands. His cord was wrapped twice around his neck. Daddy unwrapped him and gave him to me. I was so so in love. He was born at 12:53am.
My mom and friend helped me to my bed where I got cleaned up some and I birthed my placenta 40 minutes later. We delayed cutting the cord for just over an hour. We tied it off with some yarn and cut it. We had originally planned to burn it but we were all so exhausted I wanted to do what was easy at that point.
This is the single most amazing experience I have ever had in my entire life. It was intimate, beautiful, and I felt a strength I had not known of myself even after birthing meds free in hospital before.
Thank you for reading ♡